I’m not good enough!
I’m not smart enough!
I’m not pretty enough or skinny enough!
I’ll never be enough…
I couldn’t do that. I’m not gifted enough.
All of these statements are sentences that I hear on a regular basis, and I want to let you in on a little secret…they are thoughts that I have myself. Sure, not every one of them runs through my head but the thoughts/ideas behind them certainly do. You see there is a common idea that connect each one of those thoughts in all of our heads: My feelings, my thoughts and what other people say about me trump what God says.
My feelings, my thoughts and what other people say about me trump what God says.
Herein lies the problem, the lies. We begin to believe them. We begin to orient our lives around them. So, the girl who struggles with her body image and hears from others that she isn’t enough…the lie begins to lead to a lifestyle of self-destruction through starving or cutting herself.
The athlete who desperately wants to be the best but finds himself/herself lagging behind…they begin to hear – he’s not enough – so he turns to PEDs or to a self-destructive lifestyle because their identity is now gone.
The family man who just wants to provide for his family…he too begins to hear that he isn’t enough. The neighbors buy a better house, a nicer car and go to the hottest vacation spots, but not him! If only you were smarter, more skilled and better at what you do, then you could move up. He begins to believe that he’s not enough so he turns to the only thing that makes him feel “enough” – pornography! The only problem is that it traps him.
Now, these may not be your stories, but likely it isn’t too different. I find that we can all get into the comparison game – and no one wins with comparison. Instead, we need to know just who we are and fight the lies with truth!
Instead, we need to know just who we are and fight the lies with truth!
What if instead we began to believe that we were made just like we are on purpose and God has a great plan just for us? What if we believe these words:
You have searched me, Lord,
and you know me.
For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well. (Psalm 139:1, 13-14)
The only way you are going to defeat the lies that threaten to destroy us is to believe the truth more! Keep fighting. You’re not alone!
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